How Caregiving Is Affecting Lorine's Health (2:30)
Step 1: Organize Your Caregiving Tasks Like You Do for Your Children's Schedule
Every caregiver needs to own the role of caregiver the same way you do as a mom, daughter or other title. You become the manager. If you're caring for a parent, you have to leave your former role as the child. The same way you wouldn't give in to a child's every want, you can't give in to your parents or the person you are caring for every need. Print this chart and take five minutes to fill it out. It will help you get the responsibilities out of your head and written down in an organized way.
Step 2: Shift Your Focus From Quantity to Quality Time
Make sure you're being productive where it matters, like the workplace. At home, when you're caring for a parent or children, make sure you're spending time with them, not working for them. And if you must, double-task priority quality time with a productive task, like folding laundry as you watch a movie together. When all is said and done, you will look back and remember the time you spent together, not if the dishwasher was emptied.
Step 3: Ask for and Accept Help
Caregivers often feel out of control, which makes them overcompensate by controlling everything. Let go of the idea of perfection. You can't be the doctor, the driver, the nurse, the cook, the cleaning person and the accountant. When you try to do everything, you end up tipping the scales. Instead, make a list and ask someone which items he or she is able to take off your plate. This lets them choose something that utilizes their skill set. For example, someone who has to go out to run errands won't mind making one more stop to pick up a prescription for you.