How to Reawaken Your Sexuality (2:39)
Sensuality is the precursor to romance and sets the stage for liberation so you can indulge in fun, frolic and fantasy. Take a vacation from the ordinary – it is time to become extraordinary. This can be done solo and with a partner. Practicing “present moment awareness,” each action becomes more conscious and more sensual, you transform the ordinary and make it special. Turn down the usual sensory inputs. Leave your endless to-do list behind.
Rituals transform the everyday “things” we do and makes them sacred and prodigious. Self-love equates to more connection with yourself and with your partner. Intimacy and romance doesn’t just happen in the bedroom, it begins in our mind and imagination first.
Please yourself first, partner next. Once you are relaxed, allow your fantasies to take their course. Pamper yourself at every occasion – in the bath, in the bedroom, scent your underwear, your hair, bed sheets. You deserve it. It is part of the self-love ritual.
Step 1: Awaken Your Senses to Awaken Your Libido
If you feel like your libido is on hiatus, there are ways to awaken it. First, all devices off – TV, computers, tablets, phones, radio. No TV before sleep – it interferes with sleep (making you more tired the next day). This will help you unplug from your everyday reality and create a new one.
Step 2: Focus on Your Senses: Touch, Sight, Scent, Sound and Taste
This you practice by yourself and can also be done with your partner. Instead of a shower, take a bath. Dim the lights, light some pure aromatherapy candles and add pure essential oils to your bath. Bathing (not just to cleanse), anointment of the body and self-massage will help relax and titillate yourself. Make sure to play some soothing music (instrumental and relaxing).
Sight: Have dimmers installed in your bedroom, bathroom and dining room so that you can control the lighting and invoke instant romance. Install some red or pink light bulbs as instant mood-enhancers, light some votive candles in the bathroom or bedroom or share a candlelit dinner.
When you are in front of the mirror in the morning, start your day with loving affirmations - “I am beautiful, I am perfect, I am complete.” When you feel more relaxed, you’ll feel more sensual and therefore more desirous.
With your partner, gaze into each other’s eyes saying, “You are handsome, you are beautiful, you are loved, and you are my Love.”