Role Reversal

Terri’s View: As you may have read in a previous blog, Ed and I are going through a rough patch as he is currently unemployed. Whereas I, on the other hand, find myself working for actual pay (us stay-at-home moms do work) for the first time in 6 years. I took a temp job with the census for some extra income. But as it turns out, this is main income for right now. But you already know this – because you read our blogs every week, I’m sure!

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Terri’s View: As you may have read in a previous blog, Ed and I are going through a rough patch as he is currently unemployed. Whereas I, on the other hand, find myself working for actual pay (us stay-at-home moms do work) for the first time in 6 years. I took a temp job with the census for some extra income. But as it turns out, this is main income for right now. But you already know this – because you read our blogs every week, I’m sure!

I will say that I was apprehensive at first, as I am an emotional and stress eater. I thought the added stress of working as well as taking care of things at home would send me to the cupboards. But I have found that this situation, while being very poor for the bottom line, has actually worked in my favor for the waist line. Before I started working, I had been struggling with my eating and had let myself gain a few too many pounds. I was battling to get back under 180 pounds. When I appeared on The Dr. Oz Show in December, I was 178.

I was going up and down a few pounds, and although I was still working out, my eating was a little on the wishy-washy side. At my work training sessions, previously I had brought my own lunch and snacks. Now let me say, this time I was the trainer not trainee. I was explaining what I had just learned, but I went with it. My point is that I couldn’t exactly be snacking in front of the class. During the breaks, I hit the ladies room and just had time to grab a few nuts or carrot sticks. I packed a healthy lunch and avoided the vending machine in the hall. I thought I heard it call me once, but I ignored it.

I made a mental effort not to ransack the fridge as soon as I got home. I allowed myself a yogurt upon arrival, and my now unemployed husband usually had a nutritious and delicious dinner in the works. On Friday I even came home to scrubbed bathrooms, completed wash and even clean sheets! Now if I was only making real money, I could get used to this role reversal stuff!

I also went to the gym Wednesday evening, and since my house was clean I got to hit the gym Saturday morning. In the evenings after the kids were in bed, I had to prepare for my next day’s class so there was no TV time; which meant not being downstairs near the kitchen. The whole change of routine forced me make a conscience effort to eat properly. I was so afraid of being out of my norm that the new schedule actually worked in my favor. I lost 5 pounds this week and am happy to be closer to the 180 threshold then a week ago. Overall, I enjoyed my week and the change of routine was good for me – but maybe not so great for Ed.

Ed’s View: I have become “Mr. Mom” and Terri has become the “breadwinner.” This was a change in routine. I thought being home would be a piece of cake….I mean easy. Not working has been a struggle, because I need to be active. While it’s nice to go to the gym a little later in the morning, being home has been a challenge.


While I was working, I was busy driving, walking to a location, or talking. The furthest thing on my mind was food. But now, I find I am trying to find ways not to keep looking at the fridge and eat just because it’s there.

I have said previously, I believe that too much of a good thing can be bad. I keep hearing myself saying this to myself, and try to watch what I’m eating and keep positive. I also try to stay as far from the fridge as possible. My computer is upstairs in our home, so even if I give into that little voice, at least I have to walk down the stairs and back up.

I also do the little things that will keep me honest; the pictures on the fridge of Terri and I at our heaviest makes me think that I don’t want to give up on this journey. I also have tried to take some extra time in the kitchen. I like to cook and I have been tinkering with different low-fat cooking. I made some turkey burgers and added mashed yams, red pepper, low-fat mozzarella and spices. It is easy to make, low-fat and grilled nicely. I also grilled some asparagus, and it was pretty good, if I do say so myself.

I think the challenge for most of us is to take the extra time and try to find a way that we can focus on what we are doing and not focus on the mindless eating that can hit us at anytime. At this stage of the game, we can be mindful of our actions, and think about how far we have come.

Until next time, Good luck.

Blog written by Ed and Terri Masak
Ed and Terri have been married for almost 20 years. Together, they made the commitment to get healthy for each other and their 2...