Foreplay Tips

If you're trying to reconnect with your partner, it's important to remember that foreplay is as much emotional as it is physical. Try applying these techniques 24 hours prior to having sex.

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If you're trying to reconnect with your partner, it's important to remember that foreplay is as much emotional as it is physical. Try applying these techniques 24 hours prior to having sex.


Use technology to get your naughty point across.
If you want to spice things up, make sure your partner is thinking about you all day long. Send a sexy text or email about all the things you want do when you see him after work. He will be rushing to get home like never before! (Bonus points if you include a sexy pic! It doesn't have to be graphic - maybe just a picture of your lacy bra strap! Let his imagination run wild with just a hint of skin.)

Kiss with intent.
What does this mean? No more pecks! Don't kiss your partner like you are kissing your mother! Make it a sexy, passionate kiss, full of intent - the intent to be physical, whether in the moment or later in the day. Kissing often isn't enough. Quality over quantity!  

Treat each other well.
Sounds simple enough yet it is something couples often forget, especially if they have been together for a long time. Treating each other well doesn't just mean being kind, it means going above and beyond board to cater to your spouse. For instance, you could pitch in and clean up the house without being asked (I am talking to you, husbands!), or you could let your partner control the remote without complaint.

Take your time.
Once in the bedroom, don't zip right to intercourse. Intercourse shouldn't always be the goal of every sexual encounter. There is so much more to sexuality than that. Try giving each other erotic massages, or giving your partner a sexy striptease. Women tend to need more time than men to "warm up" in the bedroom, so don't jump right in and go 0-60 mph. Take your time and enjoy the scenery along the way!

Blog written by Laura Berman, PhD
Dr. Laura Berman is a world-renowned sex and relationship expert. Considered a thought leader in her field, Dr. Berman is the...