I have been out to eat twice this past week. The first was a large, chain-style restaurant near Cleveland, and the other an eclectic, farm-to-table restaurant in Tremont. Going out to eat used to scare me and leave me feeling out of control. The reality was and still is that I am still in control and people are very accommodating. At the chain restaurant, the portions are notoriously enormous. I ordered a chicken tostada salad and requested the chicken and all of the cream sauces on the side. In case that wasn't enough, I ordered extra red onions and a different type of low calorie dressing on the side as well. Our server that evening couldn't have been better. He was so kind and made sure that everything was served precisely as I ordered. When I have experiences like that, it reinforces for me that what I eat doesn't mean I have to compromise the way I eat. In fact, my mouth is watering just thinking about my healthy salad! I always wondered why salads taste so much better when someone else makes them, but they do.
The other restaurant I went this past week is owned by pastry chef Heather, who makes the best "from scratch" bread you've ever had. If I didn't care about the size of my waist, I would have consumed at least 2 loaves of crusty bread, a chewy ginger cookie, tart, brownie and at least 3 happy cookies. The chef's mom walks around entertaining the guests and her spirit is the life of the place. I asked her if my spinach and mushroom omelet could be made without cheese, oil or butter. She looked at me and said, "Why should you be concerned about your weight my dear? You're thin!" I told her that I had weighed nearly 400 pounds at one time, my 2 little munchkins are God's miracles gifted to me and my desire to remain fit and healthy surpasses my love for butter.
I often remind myself of the quote, "Don't lose sight of what you want the most for what you want in the moment.” Even though my mind is reprogrammed, I still have many inner tendencies that want to unleash their ugly heads! I never want going out to eat to cause me to slide down a slippery slope, and although I've never been invited into any restaurants' kitchen to control how my food is cooked and prepared, I've made it my job to give explicit instructions. I can honestly say, most restaurants are happy to accommodate any request I have. My 2 most recent dining experiences, however, were exceptionally fabulous and I couldn't wait to tell you all about them! Take charge and share your story, vulnerabilities and goals. Even your servers will jump on board to support you!