ADHD: Could It Be Ruining Your Marriage?

Dr. Oz delves into the adult world of attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) a condition that can wreck havoc on married life. To see if you or your spouse has ADHD, read on and then take Dr. Oz’s simple quiz.

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Are you or your spouse constantly distracted or forgetful? Do either of you feel as if you can’t get anything done? If so, it could be attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD)—a serious medical problem that affects 9 million Americans, 75% of which are undiagnosed. ADHD can cause forgetfulness, irritability and procrastination, all of which can put a healthy marriage at risk. In fact, adults with ADHD are twice as likely to get divorced.

Most people associate ADHD with children who struggle to stay focused in school, home or even at play. But what many don’t realize is that up to 70% of children with ADHD carry this disorder into adulthood.

What Is ADHD?

ADHD is a mental health condition that causes inattention, hyperactivity and impulsive behavior. Brain scans have shown that 4 areas of the brain responsible for advanced decision-making skills and impulse control are slightly smaller in people with ADHD. Research also indicates that genetics are involved; a child with 1 ADHD parent has a 1 in 3 chance of also developing the disorder. 

To envision what adult ADHD looks like, picture the brain as a conveyor belt with moving objects that represent tasks from everyday life, ordinary things like picking up the kids, making dinner, cleaning the house, mowing the lawn, doing dishes, etc. Now imagine the conveyor belt going faster and faster as you try to sort and place each task in a separate bin. Just like this scenario, the ADHD brain can’t complete different jobs when it’s moving too quickly.  In sum, people with ADHD have difficulty slowing down to sort and process tasks on a daily basis, which can result in poor performance and feelings of failure.

If you or your spouse has ADHD, it can really put a damper on your marriage. The ADHD adult often forgets to carry out important responsibilities like paying bills, has trouble keeping scheduled appointments and can exhibit unpredictable or hot-tempered behavior.