There are no FDA-approved drugs for increasing libido today. Hormonal replacement therapy (HRT) is only approved for hot flashes – not to increase libido. However, while women who undergo HRT feel better, it does not necessarily increase their desire to have sex. There are some compounding pharmacies that make testosterone (male hormones) as a cream to improve sexual libido. Studies have shown that testosterone can work for about three months but can loose its efficacy after this period. Long-term use of the drug can increase your cholesterol, increase male-pattern hair growth, and increase clitoral size. For more on hormone replacement therapy, click here.
Lastly, I address the relationship. Couples in long-term relationships tend to fall into a routine. Sex takes a back seat to jobs, children, illnesses, parents and stress. As I tell my patients, 95% of libido is in your head, the other five is “down there.”
If you are not happy, stressed, or having financial difficulties – your libido will suffer. My solution? Communicate and express how you feel. Your partner is not a mind reader and open dialogue is good. Changing your lifestyle and making the time is important. I know it is easier said than done but putting your mind to it could possibly save your relationship. Sex is not only an integral part of any relationship but it also is healthy for you. Studies have shown that it decreases heart disease, stress, and burns off calories. Most importantly, it makes you feel satisfied, sexy and happy. Make it happen!