Dr. Allison Baker, MD, psychiatrist at the Child Mind Institute, shares advice on how to help both parents and children feel less pressure to be perfect.
Keep these tips in mind from Dr. Allison Baker, MD, psychiatrist at The Child Mind Institute to help you and your child let go of the need for perfection once and for all:
Tip #1: Be a model for vulnerability.
Make it a point to share your experiences of failure with your kids, and how you value the opportunity to fail and learn from your experiences.
Tip #2: Refrain from rushing into judgment about your child's successes and failures.
Instead, listen and support. Kids (and adults) are remarkably perceptive to other peoples' judgments, and sometimes it can shape our behaviors and enhance our desire to achieve perfection.
Tip #3: Skill-build from an early age with kids.
Make it a point to let them stumble and fail, let them develop grit and learn to persevere. You feeling more confident that your child can figure it out when they launch will translate into their enhanced faith in their own capabilities. Then, there is less of a need for everything to be perfect. Remember, the desire for perfection often comes from a place of anxiety and insecurity about one's own competencies.