5 Things Happy People Know That You Don’t, Pt 1 (5:43)
In honor of his 10th season, Dr. Oz has come up with 10 rules that can help you manage the inevitable ups and downs in life. This guide was inspired by clinical psychologist Jordan Peterson's self-help book, 12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos, in which he offers a set of guidelines to get you through any obstacles. Keep these tips in mind to improve your relationships, find your happiness, and feel fulfilled inside and out.
1. Life Is Not Always Easy and You Can Manage It
Everyone faces hardships, but if you equip yourself to handle them, you can overcome the obstacles. Suffering and setbacks can breed strength, resilience, and character. Embrace the bad days — you just might learn something from them.
2. Connect With Your Community
Whether you dedicate time to know your neighbors or you volunteer at a local facility, get out of your head (and your house) and reach out to those around you. It’s important for you, your community, and the world.
3. Don’t Let the World Pass You By
No matter which passions you pursue or how you choose to live your life, never let yourself play a big part in someone else’s story. Be the star in your own story. Take the job offer, say yes to the date, give that new skill a try — better to try and fail and learn from it than to sit it all out.
4. Stay Curious
Pay attention to the wide-eyed children in your life. They have the right idea. Be mindful not to lose that curiosity, continue to dig deeper, and always ask questions. Never stop being a student — there is always more to learn.
5. Be All In — Always
Whether it’s your marriage, your friendships, or your career, make sure to give 100 percent of yourself at all times. Staying fully invested in these areas will not only strengthen your relationships but will also help you learn and grow from them.
6. Choose Your Friends Wisely
We’ve all heard the expression, “Show me who your friends are and I’ll show you who you are.” Your circle of friends reflects who you choose to spend time with and what types of decisions you’ve made. Make friends with people who want the best for you and share your goals and ideals.
7. Pause Before You Judge
As Jordan Peterson says, “Set your house in perfect order before you judge others.” It can be tempting to critique those around you and cast judgments but we all have faults and weaknesses — everyone is going through his or her own battle — so think twice before you speak negatively about anyone.
8. Follow Your Talent
To succeed in life, you have to hone the talent and skills you already possess. Find what you are good at and perfect it until you can do it with your eyes closed. Your bliss or passion may change over time, but your raw talent is always there — it’s just waiting for you to tap into it.
9. Be a Healthy Patient
When you visit your doctor and he or she asks you if you exercise regularly and eat healthily, feel proud to say yes without having to fib. Make small changes to your routine (walk to work, swap soda with water, meditate in the morning) to improve your health and make your doctor’s job that much easier.
10. Prioritize Honesty
Often attributed to Mark Twain, the quote “If you tell the truth you never have to remember anything” rings true. Along with the practical benefits of truth-telling, you will feel better knowing you’re being honest with your friends, your family, and yourself. The day I took the Hippocratic Oath I vowed to act with honesty and integrity on the clock and off and I've never looked back.