Get a Sleep Divorce. Dr. Oz Shares 5 Tips to Help You Cohabitate Better

A sleep divorce can protect your sleep and your marriage.

Get a Sleep Divorce. Dr. Oz Shares 5 Tips to Help You Cohabitate Better

Do you have a partner who snores? Talks in her sleep? Can’t stop kicking his legs? All of the above? You shouldn’t have to sacrifice a good night’s sleep just because you’re a couple. Luckily there is a way to protect your sleep and your marriage: get a sleep divorce. While this term might sound extreme, research has shown that lack of sleep can be detrimental to your relationship. A 2013 study published in the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science found that couples who got less sleep were more likely to get in fights.  

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The desire to get a sleep divorce is pretty high. The Better Sleep Council surveyed a sample of American couples and concluded that one in 10 couples sleeps in separate bedrooms and two in 10 wish their home had two master bedrooms. People’s most common complaints about their sleeping partners include snoring, ideal room temperature, movement, no space to stretch out, and more. 

Is getting a sleep divorce actually going to help? Turns out, it might, according to Dr. Oz, who discussed sleep divorces on Nov. 7, 2019 on the TODAY show. Dr. Oz has always said that getting a good night’s sleep is vital to overall health. It allows you to be more energized throughout the day and keep your brain functioning. Sleeping at least seven hours has also been shown to lower the risk for conditions like diabetes, obesity, heart disease, kidney disease, and even arthritis, says Dr. Oz. So if moving yourself from your shared bed is going to make you sleep better, you should probably consider testing it out. 

How to Approach the Topic of Sleep Divorce With Your Partner

Bringing up your desire to sleep apart might be awkward or appear like you’re rejecting your partner, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Dr. Oz has five helpful tips to help you get the conversation started: 

  1. Use “we” to avoid blame: Don’t start off the conversation by saying something like “you snore and I need to sleep.” Try instead something like, “we haven’t been sleeping well recently.” 
  2. Be honest to prevent resentment: While you should use “we” to avoid blaming your partner, you should still be honest about your problems and try not to lie (this will only cause issues in the future).
  3. Try creative solutions: If your partner doesn’t want to sleep apart, try offering separate beds in the same bedroom and see if that helps the situation.
  4. Ease into it: When starting your sleep divorce, only sleep apart for two or three nights per week.
  5. Plan intimacy ahead of time: Acts like cuddling and sex are important for relationships to thrive. If you usually do those things at night before bed, adjust your schedule so you’re not losing out on the intimacy in your relationship.

If you don't think you and your partner are quite ready for a "sleep divorce" in seperate bedrooms, try separate beds in the same room, so you can manage things like snoring, soothing vibration settings, and more according to your personal preference — and your partner can do the same from their bed. Dr. Oz Good Life mattress bases adjust approximately 12 degrees to help reduce or eliminate snoring. 

Lack of sleep is an epidemic in America. One in three people aren't getting enough sleep, according to the CDC. If you’re one of those people, a sleep divorce could be a practical solution that helps you and your partner’s health in the long run.

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Celebrity divorce attorney and relationship expert Vikki Ziegler says you should treat COVID-19 like an STD.

Just when we thought relationships and dating could not get any more complicated, the pandemic took this matter to a whole new level. Celebrity divorce attorney and relationship expert, Vikki Ziegler receives an abundance of questions about this exact topic, every single day. Her fans and followers message her via her social media channels, in the hopes of finding the right way to safely date during these times. So, if this topic has crossed your mind, rest assured you are not alone.

For those who used to "swipe left and right," on the regular, Vikki recommends slowing down for the time being, no matter what type of antibacterial wipes are being used between your swipes. Serial dating during COVID-19 can be dangerous and also very selfish at the same time. This might be a good time to either take a break from dating altogether, or invest more time in one relationship and being monogamous, at least for right now. "Everyone should treat COVID-19 as they do an STD, while dating and practice safe EVERYTHING, even beyond just intimacy," says Ziegler. "This will simplify the process and make the do's and don'ts much less complex."

She recommends that new partners keep the dating virtual prior to both being tested and or having the vaccine. "Screendating" can still be both fun and safe at the same time. She suggests that you still wear your favorite new dress, get that fresh haircut or blowout and act as though you are still going out, even if the date is happening in the privacy of your own home. She has suggested some ideas such as virtual movie nights, happy hours, cooking classes, and the most obvious, the at-home and virtual dining date. This would entail both partners ordering food to each of their respective homes, but using the same menu as if they were dining in person.

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