Friends, Not Food

Terri’s View: With the holidays here and countless gatherings and get-togethers on the horizon, it is a difficult time to stay on track with our eating. There are so many treats and desserts just out for the taking at every event and special snacks being brought into the workplace. It is no wonder the average person gains 5 pounds between Thanksgiving and New Years (I can do that in a weekend by the way) with all the temptations around us.

Terri’s View: With the holidays here and countless gatherings and get-togethers on the horizon, it is a difficult time to stay on track with our eating. There are so many treats and desserts just out for the taking at every event and special snacks being brought into the workplace. It is no wonder the average person gains 5 pounds between Thanksgiving and New Years (I can do that in a weekend by the way) with all the temptations around us.

What we need to remember is why we are at the event to begin with; it’s to see friends and family and to enjoy each other’s company. Try to plan ahead when going to events and not go hungry. Have a small snack so you are not walking in ravenous and drink a bottle of water before walking in as well. Scan the items and take the few you really want instead of just randomly putting everything in your mouth. Try to fill up on the veggie platter and mentally trick your brain into thinking that you have a full plate. When the desserts come out, pick a treat that you really want and grab a coffee or tea to keep in your hand to nurse while all the desserts are just sitting out waiting to be eaten.


Hopefully, you can get through the season without too much damage. The trick is to indulge but not let that snowball into the whole week. Get back on track immediately and into the routine as soon as possible. We need to remember the reason for the event is to enjoy each other’s company and celebrate the holidays. Yes, it is about enjoying some good food as well, but remember, your focus should be on friends, not food.

Ed’s View: With the holidays in full swing, it becomes apparent that for people that like to eat, this can be one of the most difficult times of year. It seems that we go to a holiday party almost every other night. Our families get together with food to mark the celebration. We get together with friends and go out for drinks.

I look at it this way; this season is only once a year. It may be a stressful time to try to practice your lifestyle change, but remember one thing: visiting with friends and family is the main reason for the get-together – not to eat everything associated with the celebration.

While I still need to restrain myself, I do sometimes loose the battle. The funny thing is now that when I do overindulge, I don’t feel good the next day and it will snap me back on track. We are human and we will falter, but I have found that I want to continue on my lifestyle change and make sure that I don’t lose the war.

We need to find the excuse to get to the gym for our workout. We need that “me time” to keep in-touch with our habits that we have created. If you are like me now, I refuse to toss out all the sweat, soreness and new clothes I have bought.

Don’t stress out about the party and what you’re going to eat or how many desserts there are; think about the people you haven’t seen in a while and how many complements you get on your new look. You’ve made the choice to change your life; you’re stronger than you think, so enjoy this time of year and enjoy the choice of change.

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Celebrity divorce attorney and relationship expert Vikki Ziegler says you should treat COVID-19 like an STD.

Just when we thought relationships and dating could not get any more complicated, the pandemic took this matter to a whole new level. Celebrity divorce attorney and relationship expert, Vikki Ziegler receives an abundance of questions about this exact topic, every single day. Her fans and followers message her via her social media channels, in the hopes of finding the right way to safely date during these times. So, if this topic has crossed your mind, rest assured you are not alone.

For those who used to "swipe left and right," on the regular, Vikki recommends slowing down for the time being, no matter what type of antibacterial wipes are being used between your swipes. Serial dating during COVID-19 can be dangerous and also very selfish at the same time. This might be a good time to either take a break from dating altogether, or invest more time in one relationship and being monogamous, at least for right now. "Everyone should treat COVID-19 as they do an STD, while dating and practice safe EVERYTHING, even beyond just intimacy," says Ziegler. "This will simplify the process and make the do's and don'ts much less complex."

She recommends that new partners keep the dating virtual prior to both being tested and or having the vaccine. "Screendating" can still be both fun and safe at the same time. She suggests that you still wear your favorite new dress, get that fresh haircut or blowout and act as though you are still going out, even if the date is happening in the privacy of your own home. She has suggested some ideas such as virtual movie nights, happy hours, cooking classes, and the most obvious, the at-home and virtual dining date. This would entail both partners ordering food to each of their respective homes, but using the same menu as if they were dining in person.

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