The Gift of Kindness

What do you say when your best friend tells you that they’ve started exercising? “Good job!” “Way to go!” What about when your spouse slips up with their diet? Do you say, “You’ll do better tomorrow." Why do we cheer on our friends and family, but not ourselves?

What do you say when your best friend tells you that they’ve started exercising?  “Good job!” “Way to go!”  What about when your spouse slips up with their diet? Do you say, “You’ll do better tomorrow."  Why do we cheer on our friends and family, but not ourselves?


If you start exercising, are you your best cheerleader or do you say, “I should’ve done this years ago”? If you have the diet slip do you gently nudge yourself back on track or do you say, “I'm a big, fat loser! I knew I’d fail”? Chances are that you are far kinder to others than you are to yourself.



We have a misguided notion that calling ourselves names and putting ourselves down will somehow give us the kick in the behind that will change our behavior. Unfortunately, it does just the opposite. Speaking to yourself in a punishing, unkind way decreases motivation and makes you feel bad. In turn, feeling bad leads to overeating and other unhealthy coping strategies.


Show a little compassion. Ask yourself, “Would I tell my best friend this?” If the answer is no, try to rewrite your inner dialogue in a way you’d speak to a loved one. This holiday, give yourself the gift of kindness.

4 Steps to Shedding Your Pandemic Pounds

Forgive yourself, and start walking toward a healthier you.

For those of you who have put on the Pandemic Pounds or added several new COVID Curves, you are not alone. Alarmingly, the American Psychological Association has recently published that almost half of all adults in their survey now have a larger physique. In fact, 42% of people reported gaining roughly 15 pounds (the average published was surprisingly 29 pounds but that included outliers) over the past year. Interestingly, 20% of adults in this survey lost about 12 pounds (I am surely not in this group). Clearly, there is a relationship between stress and weight change. In addition, one in four adults disclosed an increase in alcohol consumption, and 67% of participants distressingly revealed that they have new sleeping patterns.

This past year has brought about what has been called the 'new normal.' Social isolation and inactivity due to quarantining and remote working have sadly contributed to the decline in many people's mental and physical health, as demonstrated by the widespread changes in people's weight, alcohol consumption, and sleeping patterns. Gym closures, frequent ordering of unhealthy takeout, and increased time at home cooking and devouring comfort foods have had a perceptible impact. In addition, many people have delayed routine medical care and screening tests over fear of contracting Covid-19 during these visits. Unfortunately, the 'new normal' has now placed too many people at risk for serious health consequences, including heart attacks and strokes.

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