It Takes More Than Wishing

If I had 1 wish for myself when I was fat, it would have been that there was an easy fix for my obesity. Being heavy was a burden that I couldn’t get rid of (no pun intended!) Every day I would wake up and pray that my problem would somehow be magically fixed. I would hope for amazing willpower and dedicated devotion. I would wish I didn't love chocolate, and that I would miraculously fall in love with vegetables. Sadly, the magic never happened. Day by day and year by year went by with my weight increasing rather than decreasing.

If I had 1 wish for myself when I was fat, it would have been that there was an easy fix for my obesity. Being heavy was a burden that I couldn’t get rid of (no pun intended!) Every day I would wake up and pray that my problem would somehow be magically fixed. I would hope for amazing willpower and dedicated devotion. I would wish I didn't love chocolate, and that I would miraculously fall in love with vegetables. Sadly, the magic never happened. Day by day and year by year went by with my weight increasing rather than decreasing.

It wasn’t as though I didn’t try to lose weight. To the contrary, there was rarely a week that went by where I wasn’t on some type of diet or another. But I never had any success on any diet; whether it was one where I joined a program, or one I just made up myself. It was so frustrating.


As my weight got increasingly out of control, my desire for a magic fix increased exponentially. Five pounds gained on the scale turned into 10 times the amount of wishing for an easy way out. While wishing for an easy fix, I found comfort and happiness in fast food eaten on the sly; M&M's by the bag-full, and butter slathered on homemade biscuits. Obviously none of those food choices helped me lose weight! In fact, they helped me add the pounds even quicker. All the wishing in the world couldn't provide me with the one thing I wanted – to be healthier and fit.

It wasn't until I intensely focused on weight loss and forgot about wishing that I finally achieved success. All the hoping in the world didn't help me lose weight, but gaining a strong focus on the problem at hand did. By spending time working hard to make good food choices and not worrying about how long the weight-loss journey was going to take, I was able to find satisfaction with small successes and see each victory in context of the big picture. Weight-loss success isn't achieved overnight, but if you focus day by day on your goals and have realistic expectations for results, you can be successful.

Losing 158 pounds wasn't always easy, and there certainly wasn't any magic involved. The magic came when I stopped wishing and started working. Time after time I made choices that were life affirming. I would encourage you to begin making positive changes so you will finally get on your way to achieving your weight loss and fitness goals.

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