How Often Should You Be Having Sex?

How often should I be having sex?  That’s the number one question that I get from my patients.  And it sounds like a simple question, too.  But it’s not so simple to answer.  There’s no way I can tell you how often you “should” have sex—that depends on so many things, such as your age and health and a host of other things.  But I can tell you what I wrote in my book Size Matters about research on how often people actually have sex.  It turns out that for married couples under 30 years of age; the frequency (on average) is about twice a week.  For married couples between the ages of 50-59, the frequency is about once week.  So now you know how often your neighbors may be having sex.  But remember, these are averages.  Some couples are happy with more frequent sex, some happy with less frequent sex.  And that’s really the point:  not how much sex you’re having, but whether you and your partner are happy with the sex you’re having, regardless of the frequency.   If one, or both, of you isn’t happy then there are plenty of things that might be going on.  I love to say that the “Penis is the dipstick of the bodies’ health”.  Sex gives us a clue to how healthy an individual—and a relationship really is.  In my next blog, I’ll focus on how to have more sex and why some couples rarely have sex.

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