How often should I be having sex? That’s the number one question that I get from my patients. And it sounds like a simple question, too. But it’s not so simple to answer. There’s no way I can tell you how often you “should” have sex—that depends on so many things, such as your age and health and a host of other things. But I can tell you what I wrote in my book Size Matters about research on how often people actually have sex. It turns out that for married couples under 30 years of age; the frequency (on average) is about twice a week. For married couples between the ages of 50-59, the frequency is about once week. So now you know how often your neighbors may be having sex. But remember, these are averages. Some couples are happy with more frequent sex, some happy with less frequent sex. And that’s really the point: not how much sex you’re having, but whether you and your partner are happy with the sex you’re having, regardless of the frequency. If one, or both, of you isn’t happy then there are plenty of things that might be going on. I love to say that the “Penis is the dipstick of the bodies’ health”. Sex gives us a clue to how healthy an individual—and a relationship really is. In my next blog, I’ll focus on how to have more sex and why some couples rarely have sex.
Gain control of your disease while still protecting your heart
If you're overweight or obese and have type 2 diabetes, a new study reveals how to make lifestyle changes that will help you safely gain control of your disease and still protect your heart.
Researchers published a study in Diabetes Care that took a second — and more in-depth — look at data from the NIH's Look AHEAD study. They found that for 85% of people in that study, lifestyle interventions that triggered weight loss and increased physical activity reduced potential cardiovascular problems. Such lifestyle interventions also help reduce the risks for diabetes, dementia and some cancers and strengthen the immune system.
But... and there's always a but… for folks in that study who had poor blood sugar control, the lifestyle interventions were actually risky! It turns out that upgrading your lifestyle without first gaining control of blood sugar levels makes it 85% more likely you'll have a cardiac event.
So if you're ready to conquer your type 2 diabetes, talk to your doctor about first making sure your blood sugar is well controlled through medication and diet. Once that is established, then you're ready to start a weight-loss and exercise program that will help you make a dramatic shift in your life trajectory.
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